In Soul

Sharing is caring!

love yourself first

It’s that time of year again and love is in the air.

Or is it?

In today’s world, the word ‘love’ is thrown around like a football.  We love our friends, brownies (or is that just me), our family, flowers, you name it, we love it.  We ‘love’ pretty much anything and everything.

Everything but ourselves.

Have you ever noticed when women start talking about their bodies, they speak in terms of what they don’t like or what needs to be altered?  If I had a dollar for every time someone, including me, said, “I hate (fill in the blank) about my body”, I would be rich.

[clickToTweet tweet=”Why do we lavish love on everyone an everything except yourselves?” quote=”Why do we lavish love on everyone an everything except yourselves?”]

The only person you need to make you feel loved is you. But you have to let go of self-judgement first.

Self judgement is the cancer that will grow within you if you let it.  It’s that little voice inside your mind telling you that you’re not worthy or important enough.  It’s the killer of any relationship, either with yourself or anyone else as well.

Try this easy meditation, so you can free yourself of any internal critical thinking and let go of any unrealistic expectations that are holding you back:

With your eyes closed, place your hands over your heart. Take a few deep breaths and relax any tension you are holding in your body. As you exhale, feel that stress leaving your body. Feel the gentle touch and warmth of your hands resting on your chest. Feel a warm, comforting, kind light building in your hands and spreading in to your heart. Give this healing to yourself. Allow this gentle energy to flow, spreading throughout your whole body and bringing calm and healing where it is needed.

Ask yourself what you need to hear and feel right now to give loving kindness to yourself.  Say the phrases that feel most aligned with your particular situation, such as:

“May I forgive myself.”

“May I be kind to myself.”

“May I be strong.”

“May I be compassionate.”

“May I learn and grow from my experiences.”

“May I accept myself completely.”

“May I be patient with myself.”

Remember, within all of us is an innocent inner-child.  Would you talk to her with the harsh words that have been floating around in your head for way too long?

When you practice self-kindness and compassion towards yourself, those feelings overflow towards others as well.  This paradigm shift changes your energetic field which will make you look and feel more open (because you are).  It also will attract a more loving crowd of people around you. 

Love breads love.  But it starts with you falling in love with you.  Take some time today and embrace all that you are and let go of whatever you think you are not.  Self love and compassion will allow you to relax and enjoy life more.


About the Author

Learning how to love yourselfLisa Douthit is the author of Amazon’s #1 bestselling book, Wellness Warrior – Fighting for Life in Fabulous Shoes and an Integrative Health Consultant who is passionate about healing from all perspectives.  After struggling with multiple bouts of cancer and autoimmune disease, no one understands the physical, spiritual, and emotional rollercoaster better than she does. As one of the 40 million American women currently suffering with an autoimmune disease, she made it her mission to have a voice for all those with an invisible illness, and prove you can be well without perfect health. She has a private Facebook Group called Wellness Warrior Tribe for all those with chronic illness looking for support and encouragement.  For more out of the box thinking that is guaranteed to bring you joy, Like her FaceBook Page Here or join the tribe Here.

Sharing is caring!

Recommended Posts
  • Susie

    This post made me cry. Thank you Lisa for such beautiful and tender words.

Contact Me

I'm not around right now. But you can send me an email and I'll get back to you, asap.

Not readable? Change text.

Start typing and press Enter to search